You Can Pick Your Nose, but…

…you can’t pick your family.  Well, I guess you can kind of pick your in-laws based on who you choose to marry, but your parents, brothers, sisters, cousins, etc…nope.

Growing up an Army brat, I never got close to my cousins.  We lived near them for about eighteen months when I was around eleven years old, so my brother and I got to play with them more regularly.  After moving back to the area years ago, I found that I can get along with most of them for very short periods of time…like the family gatherings at Granny’s house, but I don’t have a lot in common with them and am not really interested in getting to know any of them any better for any of a number of reasons, including the way they live their lives, their preferred topics of conversation, and their personalities.

Maybe they feel the same way about me.  Maybe they think I’m snooty and that I think I’m too good for them.  Maybe they don’t and they wish I’d make it a point to show up to more of the family gatherings.  That’s not going to happen, of course.  I simply have no desire to interact with most of them which is why I also don’t have any of them as friends on Facebook or LinkedIn or anywhere else online.

Also, I don’t buy into the “family will always be there for you” line of crap.  I don’t believe that I can count on the majority of my relatives to “be there” if I needed help, nor do I expect them to.  I would not turn to them for help anyway.  I’d turn to the few real friends I have.  The friends I’ve chosen.

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2 Responses

  1. I always heard it like this: You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can’t pick your friend’s nose. ^_^

    I think family can be the friends you pick for yourself–they are more like what family SHOULD be, so that makes them family in my book.

    • That’s where the title came from, but the whole saying didn’t quite fit the post.

      My small circle of friends is way closer than almost all of my blood relatives.

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